Ok, let’s rephrase that. Six simple things you can do to remember how f**king awesome you are. That’s right, you are awesome but sometimes your inner critic gets loud and quietens your (epic) inner coach. If you start to make a few small changes and practice positivity, it helps train your inner coach. With constant distractions and the downward spiral of self-comparison in the palm of our hands on social media, it’s more important than ever to take the time to promote positive mental health.
As some of you guys and girls will know, a few friends and myself have set up and run Fluro Friday’s at our local beach in New Zealand. In one of our recent anti-bad vibes circles we talked about how we can sometimes get in the downward spiral of questioning our self worth and we shared ideas around how we can really cherish our self worth, rather than hate on ourselves. Here are a few of those ideas we shared, I hope you find it useful!
🌈The Stoke Jar.💎
Get yourself a jar. On a small piece of paper, write something that has made you smile or you are grateful for and pop it in the jar. Do this every day. When you are feeling a bit funky, rifle through the jar and pick out your pieces of paper to remind yourself how wonderful life can be and bring back your stoke.
🌈Be Your Own Best Friend. 👯♂️👯♀️
When you are beating yourself up about something – telling yourself your not enough, not fast enough, not creative enough, not good enough – it becomes exhausting and draining. And the more you do this, you are training your inner critic to keep on telling you all this negative stuff. Instead, train your inner coach and be your own best friend. Have a conversation with yourself, say what you need to say about how you feel, but instead of agreeing with yourself take the role of your bestie. If your best friend told you they didn’t think they were good enough, would you turn round and say “actually yeah, you’re really shit”. No way! Your bestie would remind you how flipping rad you are! Have that conversation, be your own bestie in times of need and start to flip the perspective.
🌈Keep a gratitude diary. 📔
At the end of every day, just before bed or with a cup of tea relaxing after dinner, write down 3 things (or more if you have them!) that you are grateful for. I’ve started doing this and can’t tell you how much it’s already changed my life after just one week, recognising the pattern of what I feel grateful for makes me go out in search of more things like that. For me, it’s the sunrise, a surf or swim in the ocean and always seems to include friends, my partner or family. Find what works for you, what you’re grateful for everyday. The really challenging days to do this are when you’re in a funk, I’ve had a day or two where I wasn’t sure what to write because I was feeling funky, but I got there in the end. Those are really the days that start to make a difference.
🌈Write Yourself A Letter. ✍️
And ask your trusted partner, family member or best mate to post it to you in 6 months. This is another personal favourite that I experienced on Outward Bound. We were asked to write to ourselves (while spending 24 hours in the bush alone, one of the loneliest moments I’ve ever experienced), and I have to say it’s one of the most empowering things I’ve ever done. I was teary while doing it, amazed at all the encouraging stuff I was penning to myself, I was so overwhelmed by how much inner strength I have. Actually I’m yet to receive the letter, so we’ll see how it feels when I read those words again, there’ll probably be more tears!
🌈Yoga. 🧘♂️ 🧘♀️
A really wonderful way to come back to the self and create a feeling of worth, through reminding yourself of the capabilities of the body. Sometimes it’s hard to think what we are capable of physically, and when we achieve it, this can be a really good reminder that we must listen to that inner coach and can help fill us with positive vibes.
🌈Getting Outdoors with Nature.🌿🌊
Nature is seriously mind blowing. In fact it’s pretty magical. And sometimes just getting out for a walk, a hike in the bush or a surf in the salty stuff is enough to bring you back to yourself and appreciate those little things.
If you have any more ideas we’ve forgotten about, or you’ve thought of afterwards, we’d love your contributions, feel free to add them in the comments below. Alternatively if you are struggling or going through a funk, here are a few resources that might help. These are New Zealand specific, but there is sure to be one in your locality who can help.
Pin it for later
Photo credit: Gabrielle Henderson